So you make your own.
First they left you behind when they went to college. Now they’ve left you even further in the dust by moving several states away. In opposite directions.
Some days you go about your own life oblivious to the fact that the world does not in fact revolve around you. Then something happens that you want to tell her about. Good, bad, it doesn’t matter. She pops into your mind first as the person who you want to talk to. Other times someone in the family will ask if you’ve talked to her recently. And realizing how long its been since you’ve heard her voice makes you miss the days you saw her every day.
Here’s to when you’re missing your legitimate Day Ones.
1. Throwback to when it was cool to match.
Mom doesn’t dress you anymore, and your tastes are so varied that this probably won’t ever happen again. Until two of you are bridesmaids in the third’s wedding.
2. When you stole their clothes but they loved you anyway. Kinda.
Now they’re probably mortified by the bum you’ve become and would love for you to wear some of their clothes if you would just stop with the sweatshirts and flannels. So they give you a virtual FaceTime tour of their closets and send you dresses of your choosing so you don’t have to spend money you don’t have. (Love you, Kase!)
3. When you could look at each other across the dinner table and know what they were thinking.
These moments are much more rare by pure circumstance, but the telepathy is still there.
4. When you knew that they were the people you were spending every second of the holidays with. For better or for worse.
Holidays are hectic and you travel to five places just to see everybody in one day, but you’ve always had companions to keep you company and talk to when extended family gets weird or annoying. Now you work holidays or can’t travel for cheap enough in the short window of time off you do have.
5. When you had someone to eat your blue M&Ms.
Because we all have weird quirks that our sisters have come to accept as normal.
6. When you didn’t have to do your own makeup.
Being the youngest means your sisters found joy in dressing you up and experimenting with their makeup. Now it’s an occasion when you remember to put on eyeliner after rolling out of bed for morning classes.
7. When “family vacation” meant everyone was going.
Because it’s nice to get to travel. And it’s awesome that we get to bring our friends. But family trips are something we all took for granted. It’s almost impossible to align everyone’s schedules these days.
8. When you had a mom away from mom to take care of you and give you advice.
Maybe you needed someone to braid your hair or help you get ready for school while you were at your dads. Or maybe you told your mom that
you hated her and she wouldn’t tuck you in, so your sister played with your hair and explained why that was literally the dumbest thing you could have ever said while you cried yourself to sleep.
If you think that no one understand your problems… NEWSFLASH – these are the only two people who know your entire life. Chances are they’ve been there. That advice is still just a phone call away, but chances are you won’t be sitting on the edge of each other’s beds when you get it.
9. When you realized that they’re your same brand of weird.
They taught you how to dance. They spent DAYS eating microwaveable rice and entire sleeves of Oreos with you while playing SIMS, Nancy Drew, etc. They made up entire towns out of sidewalk chalk and drove around them on scooters with you. They convinced you that doing a workout that makes you curse every 10 seconds is fun. They’ve taught you the art of the
really cute selfie. They laugh with you. And it’s a beautiful sound.
10. When you started saying “I love you” to each other.
Because one day you realized that making her cry and calling her a “big fat lesbian” before proceeding to run into a wall (family joke, just go with it) just wasn’t worth it. Because she’s your day one best friend and she’ll be there until the end of time, for better or for worse, even when she doesn’t particularly like you at the moment.
One of my favorite quotes from Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close:
- It was late and we were tired.
- We assumed there would be other nights.
- Anna’s breathing started to slow, but I still wanted to talk.
- She rolled onto her side.
- I said, I want to tell you something.
- She said, You can tell me tomorrow.
- I had never told her how much I loved her.
- She was my sister.
- We slept in the same bed.
- There was never a right time to say it.
- It was always unnecessary.
- The books in my father’s shed were sighing.
- The sheets were rising and falling around me with Anna’s breathing.
- I thought about waking her.
- But it was unnecessary.
- There would be other nights.
- And how can you say I love you to someone you love?
- I rolled on my side and fell asleep next to her.
- Here is the point of everything I have been trying to tell you Oskar.
- It’s always necessary.
I love you♡